FANCY a quickie? Or maybe – if you’re a woman – sex should be more a marathon than a sprint.
A new study has revealed exactly how long it takes the average straight woman to reach the point of orgasm – and it’s longer than you may think.
While the average bloke takes just six minutes to climax, it turns out women take on average 13.41 minutes.
So while Hollywood sex scenes might have actresses writhing in ecstasy in seconds, in the nation’s bedrooms proceedings are a bit more leisurely.
This revelation comes following a recent study, published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine last week, which examined the length of time it takes for women to climax.
Scientists got together a group of 645 straight women from 20 countries, mainly from the UK, the Netherlands, India and the US.
The participants in the study were all heterosexual women in monogamous relationships and the average age of the ladies tested was around 30 years old.
It might not sound very sexy, but these ladies were then asked to start a stopwatch when they became sexually aroused and stop it again when they climaxed – all in the name of science.
Over the course of eight weeks, the times ranged between 12.76 minutes to 14.06 minutes – and 17 per cent of the participants never experienced an orgasm.
On top of this, the experts found that penetrative sex was rarely the best way to get a woman off.
Only 31.4 per cent of participants climaxed this way.
7 tips to help women climax
Sex and relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr reveals seven ways you can increase your chances of orgasm…
1. Change up the time of day
Women’s hormonal peaks vary between morning, noon, or night. Women should feel free to discover what time of day she feels most frisky. So experiment with Spoons position on a Sunday morning, Missionary at midday, and the Naughty Doggy position at night.
2. Tease to please
Many women don’t climax because they can’t take direct clitoral stimulation. Instead your man can run his fingertips, or a vibrator, around your clitoral zone so he doesn’t overstimulate you. This teasing sensation builds your desire – the more desire, more likely you’ll climax.
3. Relax your mind
Have a relaxing bath. Some women are wound up too tightly from a day at work or running after children, to relax to the point of having an orgasm. But simply slipping into warm water, and feeling a bit spoilt, can help you relax your mind – crucial for a climax.
4. Avoid booze
Women who feel a bit shy about letting go and climaxing, falsely think lots of alcohol will relax them enough. It actually shuts down their sensations. One study found that one glass of wine was the right amount of alcohol to help a woman relax.
5. Tickle your fancy
Another surprising method for relaxing and stimulating feel-good brain chemistry is having a laugh. So whether you put on some comedy, or have a fun tickle fight, you can laugh yourself into bed. And with that feel-good brain chemistry stimulated it helps put you in the mood to climax.
6. Use food to set the mood
Stimulating a woman – all over – who doesn’t climax easily, has been found to help. So fix a tray of finger foods for your man to hand feed you. Be playful and let morsels of your favourite foods linger on your lips.
7. Scare tactics
Try some scare tactics! One fascinating study found that women who had just watched a scary film (not an extreme slash-horror but a thriller), or even went on scary rides at theme parks, felt sexually charged.
On average, 68.6 per cent of the ladies needed some other form of action too, including kissing, “light biting” or touching other body parts to climax.
Some positions were also more effective than others, with the most favourable style of sex being the woman on top.
42.2 per cent of ladies said this was the most optimal for them.
Relationship status didn’t matter either as it took about the same time for both married and unmarried women to finish.
Researchers also found some other surprising factors that impacted how quickly it took for women to orgasm.
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In particular, they discovered wearing socks during the act can increase pleasure.
But it’s not all fun and games as one study this year uncovered what’s called persistent genital arousal disorder.
This affects women and those with the condition have constant, painful orgasms uncontrollably.