Establishing the Environment • Science of Parenting • Iowa State University Extension and Outreach
Everyone needs a feeling of safety, no matter the age or stage in life. The home is usually the first foundation of safety for most families. And new parents spend a great deal of time moving throughout the home, making sure the environment their children are exposed to is safe!
A classroom teacher has the same responsibility for maintaining safety. Securing the environment helps children feel comfortable, secure, and capable of success! As children feel more secure and safe in their environment, whether at home, school, or even after-school, they will begin to assert their own independence.
As children grow, we want them to use their budding independence to learn new skills; practice making new friends; and have confidence at school. Parents can support their children’s autonomy in the following ways:
Create consistency in routines and rules. The structure that children grow to expect is a protective factor for their growing independence.
Establish expectations for your children and communicate those expectations and consequences to them! When children know what to expect, they can make good decisions knowing their parents will help and support them.
Reinforce the good behaviors children exhibit with praise and positive discipline.
When consequences are required, communicate honestly and provide rationale for behaviors that are expected. Use natural and logical consequences to help children to make good choices.
Take an active interest in your child’s activities and interests.
Showing love, warmth, and responding to them with positive feedback will also help them develop their independence.
With two earned degrees from Iowa State University, Barb is a Human Sciences Specialist utilizing her experience working alongside communities to develop strong youth and families! With humor and compassion, she enjoys teaching, listening and learning to learn!