DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I was younger, I got involved in crime. I ended up in some big trouble and made a lot of enemies in my local area.
Thankfully, I decided I wanted a better life so moved 150 miles away.
I went back into education, managed to get a place at university, got a job and haven’t committed a crime in ten years.
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Now I’m 30. My family still lives in my home town and I visit them regularly.
A few months ago, I met a girl there and fell in love.
She is 24 and knows about my past but doesn’t know I live far away.
However, I can never move back.
I’ve worked so hard to turn my life around and be a good person. In my old town I have a reputation as a bad guy – living there would make me anxious and on edge.
Since lockdown, my excuses are wearing pretty thin as to why I can’t meet this girl for a walk.
This was supposed to be a fling but I have never felt this way about anyone.
I want to be with her and my lies are eating me up.
DEIDRE SAYS: Turning your life around and moving away from a place where you have unhappy memories and unpleasant past associates is a massive achievement.
But lying to your new love is making you unhappy and won’t help you build trust.
If you carry on making excuses not to see her, the relationship will inevitably fall apart.
You need to be upfront and honest, as much for yourself as for her.
I can’t cope with stress of home-schooling and trying to run a small business
Painkillers addiction is causing my relationship to fall apart
I NEED SPACE
My wife constantly puts me down and it is draining my confidence
I can’t trust lying husband who gets angry when I confront him about affairs
IS THIS NORMAL?
I’m worried my husband will think I’m weird after he gave me ‘elbow orgasm’
Otherwise, your romance can’t develop.
She has accepted your past mistakes and should understand. If you are right for each other, you will find a way to overcome obstacles.
My support pack Looking After Your Relationship will help you to communicate better with one another.
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