A Wollongong-based DJ accused of raping of three women held back tears as his trial heard that one of the alleged assaults occurred on the day his uncle revealed that he had terminal cancer.
WARNING: This story contains explicit sexual references.
- Remzi Bektasovski has told his rape trial that one of his accusers initiated sex on the day of one of the alleged assaults
- He denies a text message he sent a woman that said “I am coming for it — so be ready” referred to sex
- Mr Bektasovski had to take a break to compose himself after becoming emotional during his evidence
Remzi Bektasovski, a former martial arts instructor, is facing five counts of sexual and indecent assault in Wollongong District Court.
During his second day of evidence Mr Bektasovski told the court he had agreed to help one of the women with a computer problem.
Mr Bektasovski said he picked the teenager up from a train station and took her to her house where she changed her clothes before they went to his house to work on the computer.
When he arrived he said his mother, father, grandfather, aunt and uncle in a room at the back of the house.
“Did you know what they were talking about?” defence barrister Matthew Johnson asked.
“No,” Mr Bektasovski said.
“But you found out later?” Mr Johnson asked.
“Yes,” Mr Bektasovski said.
Mr Bektasovski then became overwhelmed by emotion and asked the court for break to try and regain his composure.
Mr Johnson then told the court that unbeknownst to Mr Bektasosvki the family had gathered to discuss the news of his uncle’s diagnosis.
Accused says complainant initiated encounter
After the break Mr Bektasovski told the court his mother told him to go to the granny flat behind the house to work on the computer.
When he found he could not resolve the problem, Mr Bektasovski said the woman told him, “It’s OK you couldn’t fix it” and attempted to kiss him.
He said she then “massaged his groin area” and “unbuttoned his pants” before giving him a “hand job” and performing “oral sex” on him.
He said he then indicated there was condom on the shelf and she went to pick it up while he stood up to close the curtains and put it on before they engaged in consensual sex.
He told the court his uncle knocked on the door a few minutes after the encounter and they both dressed and left the granny-flat “giggling” as they walked down the driveway because they were almost interrupted.
In his cross-examination he rejected the woman’s version of the encounter.
“Did you ask the woman for a hug?” prosecutor Michael Fox asked.
“That never happened,” Mr Bektasovski said.
He also denied touching her breasts or pushing her head towards his crotch and that he forced her to have sex in the flat’s bathroom.
He also rejected suggestions he was not wearing a condom, but conceded he threw the condom on the floor.
“I didn’t care at the time,” he said.
‘I am coming for it’
Under cross-examination Mr Bektasovski said he had consensual sex on three occasions with another of his accusers.
He denied claims of a fourth encounter, despite sending the woman a text on the day.
Mr Fox asked the accused to explain a text message that read, “Well I am coming for it — so be ready”.
“You went to her house?” Mr Fox asked.
“I never went to her house,” Mr Bektasovski said.
“And you had sex with her?” Mr Fox said.
“I never had sex with her that day,” Mr Bektasovski said.
Mr Fox asked Mr Bektasovski why, if they didn’t have sex in the manner claimed by the woman, he had received text messages from her friends in the days after.
“They were not related to any sex,” Mr Bektasovski said.
The accused was also asked by Mr Fox to explain his understanding of consent.
“Do you think if you have sex with someone on a number of occasions and it is consensual, that that consent continues to apply?” Mr Fox asked.
“No, it does not,” Mr Bektasovski said.
The trial, before Judge Andrew Haesler, continues.