When it comes to a kinky sex session, most men think they know how to woo a lady.
Some might discuss certain techniques before trying it in bed, while others assume they know how to get a woman going.
The truth is, it’s always important to speak to your partner about her likes and dislikes.
Now Nadia Bokody claims to have found one particular thing that women absolutely hate in the sack.
So are you guilty of it?
The sexpert discussed the certain touchy issue while opening up about a previous experience of her own.
She shared her sex tips in a candid article for news.com.au.
Nadia wrote: “I once dated a guy who put his hand around my neck while we were having sex.
“Not in an attempt to cause me harm, but because – as he later revealed – he’d seen it performed in porn and assumed I’d be into it.
“What was most striking about this encounter was the fact he didn’t ask me if I’d like it first, because he was afraid of looking inept.”
The sexpert says some male readers tell her how they don’t talk to their lovers in bed as they’ve been taught to know what to do.
Peggy Orenstein, author of Body and Sex, even observed this sort of stuff when she travelled around the US speaking to men.
She said: “By midway through kindergarten – that’s age five or six – they’ve learned from their peers to knock that stuff off.
“At least in public: to disconnect from feelings, shun intimacy, and become hierarchical in their behaviour.
“The lifelong physical and mental health consequences of that gender performance are ingrained as early as 10.”
She added: “By 14, boys become convinced that other guys will ‘lose respect’ for them if they talk about problems.”
Nadia claimed often intimacy can become a “near-impossible act for men”.
The sexpert explained: “We teach men sex is a power exchange, then find ourselves gobsmacked that reports of sexual harassment and assault continue to skyrocket in an era where we’ve invested so much energy into making consent hip.
“But focusing on what ‘yes’ looks like and ignoring the reasons so many men don’t ask for it in the first place misses the point. As long as we condition boys to perform their maleness by shunning vulnerability, discussion of the mechanics of consent will be redundant.”