Talking dirty in the bedroom can feel awkward the first few times you do it.
It can feel a bit cringe-worthy and getting tongue-tied could ruin the moment.
So if you’ve been struggling to whisper sweet nothings into your lovers ears, listen up.
Porn star Joanna Angel recently revealed her tops tips for nailing kinky conversations on the Sex With Emily podcast.
She told sex doctor Emily Morse that talking dirty requires a lot of practice.
In fact, the adult actress and author used to struggle with X-rated chat until she found her confidence.
The 40-year-old, from Brooklyn, New York, said: “You have to dive in and get into the sex.
“It was actually hard for me – a porn star – to do this.
“This isn’t even about being good in bed. It’s a completely different part of the brain and your sexuality that you’re using.
“You’ve gotta just think of something really filthy, get aroused by it, and write it down.
“That’s what you have to do.”
If you’re finding it difficult to think of something to say, it can help to draw on your own personal experiences.
She said: “Write down what you want done to you. If ‘so and so’ was here what would you want them to do to you?
“Be graphic, be specific. You’re telling a story.”
Or if the words aren’t coming easily to you, moaning can be a less intimidating place to start.
She said: “Start by moaning… a lot of times things just come out.”
Dr Emily, who has a doctorate in Human Sexuality, also shared her tips.
Her top piece of advice is to practice whenever you have a spare moment alone.
The podcaster recommended: “Practice in the shower.
“Listen to erotica, read erotica, watch porn and write down things that speaks to you…
“Practice this when you’re masturbating or alone. Then you won’t feel so nervous.”
If you’ve tried all these tips and you’re still struggling with dirty talk, there’s no need to worry.
While kinky conversations can make romps more pleasurable, they aren’t for everyone.
Joanna added: “It’s OK. You can have good sex without dirty talk.
“And actually, too much dirty talk can be weird.”
So will you be giving the advice a go? Let us know in the comments section below.
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